Is the Age of 50+ the New Divorce Age?

I'm 53 yrs. old and I am almost divorced. (If he would just sign the last papers)!!  But I'm starting to notice a trend among my friends and their friends also. Every week, I hear of 1 or 2 people who are divorcing now in their 50's. I have to ask myself, what is happening?

I know for myself, it is my second marriage and it seemed that perhaps I got fooled. I married a widower and I think now I realize that he simply wanted another woman in the house.  I definitely did not have my eyes open enough to see the signs.

 I was tired of trying to be the one who worked on the relationship. Wake up call to society; it's not only the women who keep a relationship going. I was also sad that I never received a compliment from him (emotional stimulation will help the guy get some sex)  and that I couldn't quite measure up to his addiction of porn. After all, I'm 53, not 25. But..so is he, somehow his ego won't let him see how much he's let himself go.

I personally wanted more excitement in my life. I wanted to do things I liked to do instead of what he and his family wanted to do. Cook foods I enjoy instead of just what was required by him.  I couldn't stand him whining anymore about his job and the people he worked with when in reality, I am disabled and haven't worked in 6 yrs. I was worn out from the negativity that spewed out of his mouth. Can't imagine he is a dream to work with either.

I simply wanted to start having a happy life. I thought this was when I was supposed to be sliding into home base. You know, sitting on the porch together, gardening together, looking at the stars, perhaps some sex that was satisfying not only to him but to me too! (please)!

Maybe women our age are out looking for more than what's happening at home. You know, the guy who works all day, comes in complaining about everything wondering where his dinner is and then gets on the computer to look at yet...more girls who aren't you and not even near your age and then goes to bed wondering why you don't want to have sex with him.

Yeah....divorcing in your 50's can be tricky. What about finances, what happens if you get out on your own and you are alone for the rest of your life, what about when you can't afford a place of your own and have to stay with friends or family? Perhaps you loose or have lost your job or you are disabled and can't work right now or forever. 

Fears will keep you in places that are so devastating to your own soul. Walking out on the bare bones of what was in my marriage is the best decision I've made this year.

 Even at 53, I'm smart enough to know that being alone is better than being alone inside of a marriage.